This post is for all you introverts out there~I’m right there with you~(and any of you extroverts who’d like to understand us better.) First, let’s make sure we have a common understanding of the meaning of introvert.
For those who know me, you know I am not shy. (Many people associate shyness with being introverted, and that is not always the case.) I can easily strike up a conversation with a complete stranger. I was the Commencement speaker for my Master’s Degree ceremony and spoke in front of hundreds of people. During my dating years, I have been known to start up conversations with guys I was interested in (which is actually how I snagged my wonderful husband). All-in-all, I enjoy interacting with people. This is why for years, I would have said I was an extrovert. However, after much self-exploration and growth, I now know differently.
You see, I get my energy from time alone rather than time with others. This is the main indicator of an introvert. When I was teaching, I often stayed in the classroom during lunch rather than going to the teachers’ lounge because I needed some time by myself. After a long day of counseling, I’m not always jazzed at the thought of happy hour with co-workers~eventhough I really enjoy their company. Interacting with people for long periods of time, usually leaves me feeling a bit depleted~eventhough I enjoy it at the time. I definitely crave my “Leslie-Time.” This time is necessary for me to recharge and refuel. This is just how I am and what I need. Period. No apologies here for my introverted self!
For some reason, I have noticed introverts can be incredibly hard on themselves…maybe even secretly longing to be an extrovert as if one is better than the other. 100% accepting and embracing your introverted self (if that is truly who you are) is another way to really be able to have the necessary energy to shine your light on others. Take the time you need to be alone. Re-energize yourself. Refuel. Then, you’ll be ready to put your best and most authentic self out there in the world.
Are you an introvert or extrovert? Have you truly embraced and accepted this aspect of yourself?
Leslie ~Sparkling Yogini